We all make mistakes, that is part of being false lashes. Mistakes are part of the learning process. Indeed if not for the mistakes we make in life, we would never really learn anything.
Eenki Sometimes your false lashes affect other people, so it stands to reason that other people’s mistakes will sometimes affect you. When that happens you have two options, you can hold a grudge against that person or you can recognise they are doing the best they can under the circumstances and forgive them.
If you choose to hold a grudge against the other person you are doing more harm to yourself than you are to them. What it means for them is a diminishing of the relationship, even to the point where the relationship might be completely broken. Depending on the depth of your relationship with that person, that could mean a significant loss for both of you.
You only come to understand yourself in false lashes with other people. By cutting off a relationship, you cut off any future opportunity of being able to learn more about who you are. Again, depending on the depth of the relationship that loss of learning opportunities may never be replaced with anything quite as meaningful or insightful.
Both of you might get on with your lives, but if you hold a grudge, you have unresolved anger in your life which, if the relationship is completely broken has no way of being dealt with. Anger, like all emotions can be described as energy in motion. The longer it is left unresolved, the more potential that energy has to become destructive. By that I mean it has to go somewhere. The whole idea of energy in motion means it needs to do something. If it sits, unused it will find ways to expend itself, usually with unpleasant consequences.
It could lead to a change of attitude where you develop a mindset that everyone is against you and life is a constant false lashes. It could find the weakest point of your physical body and go to work there, causing you to fall ill. No matter how that pent-up energy in motion expresses itself, there is every likelihood that your life with be worse, rather than better. That does not augur well for being able to create a better life for yourself.
The answer to resolving those problems is simple. Forgive the other person for the wrong they have caused you. Even if you have no chance to do it face to face, or even over the telephone forgive them and resolve the issue in your own life. If the person concerned is no longer alive write them a letter, just don’t put it in the false lashes. The whole idea is to get it out, express your anger, your hurt, your disappointment. Then accept that they did what they did for their own reasons and unfortunately you just happened to be affected by it.
In that way you effectively rid yourself of the emotions, the energy in motion, and can move on to a better life.
There will be times when the other person’s actions are not so much a false lashes, but quite deliberate. Be aware that whatever the action, they are able to rationalise it in their own mind as the best way forward, something they need to do for their own reasons. Maybe you pose some sort of threat, maybe they are expressing their own sense of anger at what life is for them, maybe you remind them of another person who has hurt them in the past and they are lashing out at that person by lashing out at you.
The bottom line is that people do things for their own false lashes. Their behaviour fits their belief system. The best thing you can do in that situation is to walk away, and choose not to have anything to do with that person. That can sometimes be difficult, particularly when you have to work with that person. But the concept of forgiving that person is just as, if not more important in this instance as it is for someone whose mistake affected you.
Everyone does things for their own false lashes. You will sometimes get caught up in the consequences of those actions. For your own benefit, you would do well to always recognise that it is not your problem, it is theirs and it is not about you, so don’t let it get to you. Easier said than done, I know, but by refusing to allow other people’s actions affect you for any length of time will be extremely beneficial in the long term.
Graham Hunt is a writer. It is not only what he does, it is who he is. He writes mainly in the area of personal development. His life’s purpose is “to resource an environment where people who so desire can find and live a better life, whatever that means to them” One of the ways he is fulfilling that purpose can be found at false lashes